Women wheelchair dating
Getting ready for a date with a man in a wheelchair will involve extra steps.
Either the woman or her date will have to find out if the location is wheelchair-friendly.
A woman might be worried about offending her date by offering too much assistance when he does not need it. She needs to be mindful of what an appropriate touch is and when to use it.
Touching the man’s wheelchair or patting his head before he has become comfortable may be construed as condescending, says the United Spinal Association in its report, “Disability Etiquette.” Broaching the issue of his disability too soon or referring to it too frequently may be a turn off and might result in making him feel uncomfortable.
This may involve doing the driving, assisting him in getting in and out of the car, moving extra chairs, helping with his coat and holding the door open for him.If you are new to the world of wheelchairs your life has probably been filled with new experiences and new information.Over the years we have learned many things about being in a relationship with someone in a wheelchair. If you have questions it's best to get them out in the open rather than dwelling on them. Some of us are able to walk short distances on good days. Stick some music on and we can happily dance along. It's by being able to achieve the small things, even when it takes us longer than usual, which helps us keep our independence. Often people worry about things like: will they have to help us with personal care (the answer to that is no, if we need it we will have help in place already). Many wheelchair users enjoy a very healthy sex life. Until they see you're here to stay they'll be suspicious. Just because we're in a wheelchair it doesn't mean we can't walk a little bit. Be patient with us, we're not trying to be difficult or insult you by turning down your offers to help us.