Dating vs courting
If you find that you have answered “no” to one or more of these questions, do not allow yourself to be swallowed up in despair.Rather, ask yourself: What is keeping me from changing my “no” to “yes” in each case? God has given you every resource you need to have the assurance of your salvation, to provide for yourself and for a family, to put sexual sin to death, and to develop gospel relationships in your local church.
In our contemporary context, however, there seems to be a particularly acute and nuanced resistance to this notion, and areas of male leadership that were once assumed are now questioned as outmoded at best, patriarchal and misogynistic at worst.
In the past when I’ve asked guys about their intentions with the woman they are dating, I’ve often heard the biblical-sounding language of God’s will. It is good to live humbly under God’s sovereign will, for we cannot ultimately determine our future (James -18).
But in his wise design, God has left it largely up to the man whether or not he will get married.
Ever since Joshua Harris kissed dating goodbye in 1997, the dating vs.
courting debate has raged within the evangelical community.