Dating someone chronic disease
So I decided, as an experiment, to "lead with vulnerability" and tell him what I usually avoid discussing until I know someone better.
After we ordered, he asked me politely about the reason for my dietary restrictions, and instead of evading the question with a vague reference to "health issues," I told him that I have Lyme disease and have been seriously ill for the last three-plus years.
In order for me to be able to function, I need at least eight to 10 hours of sleep at night.
I love you and want to be with you, but I will need to go to bed at a decent hour in order to be the best version of myself, the version I want to bring to our relationship.
However, I have learned from experience that regular, high levels of stress in relationships are extremely detrimental for my body.
Let’s please prioritize strong communication skills in order to avoid too much misunderstanding.
I’m still an overachiever inside, I just can’t act on it much.
I just need you to know the nature of autoimmune disease sometimes means a flare-up at the most inconvenient times.
At dinner, it was apparent that we liked each other.
But I felt the conversation only coasting along at a superficial level, and my interest in him was waning.
If you think my illness is a sacrifice for you, then think about someone other than yourself for a minute and realize what it is for me.
I may be different, but nobody pays much attention to the moth that blends in with the crowd.