I was proud of her for her compassion and did not restrict her friendships, though she wasn’t allowed to transgender boy.
My older Latina mother, who lives with us, disapproves. She goes to a small private school where she would be labeled by some, although there are friends who would understand.
All other relationships begin to lessen, and the one with your girlfriend becomes your priority.
I’ve told her we need to meet the person and if her behavior starts to be affected adversely we would react accordingly.
Our daughter feels it’s unfair that she has more restrictions placed on her dating than her brother.
Your discomfort doesn’t appear to stem from any peril to your daughter, but rather from your own biases. Because our transphobic society has told most of us that trans people are in a special category, that’s why. The best thing you can do for your daughter is to wrap your mind around that. You aren’t alone in feeling afraid and uncertain at various points along the way as you watch your daughter explore things that are foreign to you.
I encourage you to examine the ways that negative assumptions you’ve made about L. SA: To that end, it’s worth asking what you mean when you write that you don’t like your daughter “hanging out with these kids.” You mean kids who happen to be L. Your question about what part of her interest in gender identity is “experimental teenage stuff” and what part is “who she is” can be rightly answered two ways: In choosing the friends, romantic partners and interests she has, your daughter is showing you precisely who she is, and also, with the passage of time, who she is will change.